[QUOTE=hanwill;998435]I get more annoyed at the people who refuse to let a mom holding a little kid sit down. I have been in that situation. While I wasn’t so tired that I could not stand up, my child fell asleep STANDING UP, while the other one (a 2 year old) collapsed in my arms asleep. Well, if that has happened to you- it is dead weight on your arms, and it makes it very hard to hold on going around corners, or if the driver slams on brakes. And yet, able bodied people (all-men, women, teenagers) act like they are entitled because they got there first. A little curteousness could go a long way. At least offer your seat- surely another 20 minutes on the bus is not going to kill you…[B] And you could save a kid’s life if there is an accident[/B]… It is HARD to tote kids that are sleeping…[/QUOTE]I will do my very very best to try to explain my views without coming off as sarcastic or negative.
Been there, done that. My first trip was with my 5 and 2.5 year olds. Then they were 6.5 and 4. And earlier this year they were almost-9 and 6. So I’m not talking from the cheap seats … I’ve been there.
I should also say that as a healthy, roughly 40-year-old man, I NEVER stay seated if I believe someone else needs that seat more than I do.
I’m sure you will agree with this paragraph I’m writing now. [B][U]If you get on a standing-room-only bus, and you believe your child’s LIFE is in danger because you or your child are standing, then it is YOUR responsibility to not get on that bus.[/U][/B] Are you seriously telling all of us that you will risk your child’s life by hoping that someone will come to your aid? God forbid something did happen and your child did die in an accident, who would bear more responsibility … the strangers who didn’t volunteer their seats, or the parent who knowlingly placed his/her child in danger??? Please look at it from this perspective.
There were NUMEROUS times when my wife and I declined to get on a SRO bus and waited for the next bus so our kids could have seats. Yes, I’m talking after a long hot day, cranky kids falling off their feet, holding my sweaty and sleeping and getting-heavier-every-minute 4 year old in my arms, just waited in a 45 minute line after park closing, and YES, we’ve let people behind us go past us so that we could get our kids seats for the next bus.
If I believe my kids are truly, truly, really in danger by standing on a bus (or by being held by me while I stand), then there is no way on God’s green Earth that I will risk their lives by boarding a SRO bus and hoping that someone will do the right thing.
It is MY responsibility to do what I think will keep my kids safe. Yes, from the standpoint of good manners and being a good person, those two 20-something men should get the heck out of their seats and let my 6 year old sit next to my wife holding our sleeping 4 year old, but I will NEVER place my kids in a dangerous position if I can help it.
And I can help it by not boarding a bus when I know they won’t get a seat unless some stranger decides to be nice.
God forbid if something happens to my kids on that bus ride, I’d have only my wife and myself to blame, because we put our kids in that position … those selfish 20-somethings should be ashamed of themselves for not offering up their seats, but my wife and I would have been the ones truly to blame.