In my opinion it really depends on the child. as we’ve seen on DC there have been many families that wait until the morning of, or until they’ve arrived, and the child was TOTALLY fine and excited and it only enhanced the excitement of the vacation. In those cases it’s a fabulous surprise!
Although, I do know some children that wouldn’t handle it so well. One of my good friends who lives in Florida has a now 6 year old son. They were taking a trip to visit family in PA last year for 2 weeks and going to visit Sesame Place and driving to Hersey Park also. The child loved and remembered Sesame Place but Jenn decided to keep it a surprise. When the morning came and she told him, he almost went into panic mode. He was anxious all morning, couldn’t understand why they were going on such short notice, and cried pretty much the whole plane ride to PA. Of course that made my friend feel terrible.
i just wanted to share that story because I think some kids need a lot of “prep time” when it comes to big events like vacations, it’s ALL dependant on a child’s personal tempermant but I think some parents forget that. We also have a teacher in our school who’s son is in pre-school and needs a lot of “prep time.” She lets him participate in packing, seeing maps of where they are going, talk about where they are staying, etc. Some kids just really need consistancy in their schedules and any little, or big, change can trigger some anxiety.
If Jack is a really adaptable laid-back guy and Danielle thinks he can handle a last minute adjustment then I probably would. I think it would be SUCH an exciting way to start a vacation! If there is any doubt then I would tell him and share the excitement of the next month together.